From the moment we are born (and some will argue even before that…) we are always learning, adjusting, and adapting….
Well, we are doing those things as long as we don’t mess it up for ourselves.
How do we do that? We’re human, we tend to invent new ways as we go. But, there are some pretty standard options. One of the most common is being afraid of being wrong.
Nobody likes to be wrong
It’s a general fact dear reader. We don’t usually like to be wrong.
Occasionally we are pleasantly surprised and something turns out better than we hoped, but for the most part being wrong isn’t fun.
It’s a matter of perception and perspective. We are generally invested in being right. We have put time and energy into learning, thinking, and believing a certain way. And being wrong means a loss.
We have put in the time and energy to learn, think and do and it turns out we didn’t get what we wanted. We were wrong.
And sometimes it’s more than just a little effort at stake. There can be cherished beliefs, love, money and possibly lifestyle at stake. And naturally we don’t want to lose any of it.
In fact, our opposition to the possibility of being wrong often increases with the perceived stakes. That’s why we’re darned tenacious when we think being wrong means loosing something important.
The more important things seem the more we will fight to be right. And that’s good… If we’re right.
Unfortunately we aren’t always right. Sometimes we’ve goofed and now we’re fighting to cling to an idea or belief that is wrong. We just can’t succeed that way.
But sometimes you have to be wrong to be right…
If we perceive being wrong as a loss we fight tooth and nail to avoid it, or at least to avoid accepting it.
But, sometimes we need to recognize that we were wrong so that we can change things and accept something better.
Sometimes dear reader, we are wrong and we are going to remain wrong until we do something to correct the situation.
Correcting the situation may mean a number of things: unlearning, relearning, accepting, adapting, or even (and people hate this one…) repenting.
No, I’m not going all religious on you here dear reader. The word repent has religious meaning, but it also has practical meaning. In a practical sense repentance means rethinking and behaving differently than you have in the past. In practice it means you stop being wrong and start being right.
Repentance is sometimes an unpleasant process. Being wrong is sometimes an unpleasant condition, but if we are willing to accept that we were wrong in the past and that we can choose to act and correct the situation; then we can take the necessary steps to be right in the present and in the future.
If we are not afraid to be wrong we can actually take the steps necessary to move from being wrong to being right.
It’s not easy, but it’s important
As I’ve said, a lot of the problem is actually perception. If we are afraid of being wrong we will fight against it.
If we see ourselves as striving to become better, and learning to be right, then the moment of wrongness and our correction to overcome being wrong are just another step in achieving and becoming greater than we have been.
In practice any time we actually want to do something or be something greater than we are we have to accept the possibility of having been wrong. Then, if we focus less on having been wrong and more on becoming right, we can move forward and achieve.
If we recognize that we were wrong we can ultimately become right.
It is a question of perception and understanding dear reader. And for any of us out here in life there are many ways and times that we might be wrong. But for all of us it is necessary that we be willing to recognize when we are wrong and overcome our wrongness. It is then that we can succeed in our desires.
That’s it for this one dear reader. Until next time…
Be willing to learn and become right, even if it means being wrong for a little while…